There are days when you feel like you are sinking into a never ending abyss those are the days that you need to drag yourself out of that proverbial hole more than ever. Lately, despite having my family, close friends and colleagues around me I have never felt so alone. Personally I have never been the sort of person to dwell in the past and much prefer to get up and go rather than mope but that seems to have worked more to my detriment than credit. To add insult to injury one of the closest people in my life suffers from depression and I just don’t know what to do half of the time. Whatever I say or do is either not enough or too much and the happy medium seems like the holy grail. As I said within myself my go to trait is to sort out a problem and there are three things that over the years have helped me on my way to sorting out most of my problems. I hope they can help you too.
Is it so wrong to be just happy?
When I say ‘Me Time’ you are probably thinking that I have gone slightly mad but just keep on reading and you will realise that I have not! When you are alone you have the opportunity to do things your way without the consideration of anyone else, this is something that to some may be considered as terribly selfish but as an only child for years I have had to find ways to just be me without outside input so I am now able to thrive in this particular sense. When I am having a moment like this I like to run a hot bath, listen to my current audio book and light my favourite candle. The face masks are next to come out and I partake in the ritual of self cleansing from top to bottom – guys it is the best thing ever. When I have finished cleansing I move on to getting my thoughts down onto paper.
Whether I am writing a journal entry or a thank you note there is something personal about each part because it has come straight from me. When I am in deep thought I love to write as the words just flow freely and when I am done they stop naturally – I guess it is a bit like having a silent rant. The choice is yours after you have finished writing, you can either send it on to the person it was intended, keep it or even destroy it but in that moment it is YOUR CHOICE. For the past 63 days I have written in my journal every day as I haven’t really been feeling myself and in an effort to find out what the heck is my problem the writing has really helped. Of course I am still angry and hurting but it is much more bearable when I write it all down. When I am done putting pen to paper I get my trainers on and head out for a walk to let go of all the negative thoughts that have been surrounding me.
In an effort to breath and reboot whilst I am out I zone out whilst listening to my audiobook and just walk without a destination. There have been times where I have walked about 3 miles before I realise that I need to turn back and head home and there are times where I get to the corner shop and just want and need to get back home as quickly as possible. Either way I am out, breathing deeply and letting go. If you haven’t tried it then it is truly one of the easiest and most effectively ways of catching your breath and gathering or releasing your thoughts.